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From Ashes of Pity into Beauty of Purpose by Debra Gray-Elliott Tags: abortion forgiveness God's grace

Every second of every day a woman has an abortion. Every second of every day a woman has to live with the emotional turmoil of her decision. Forty years ago at the age of sixteen Debra had an abortion changing her forever.


From Ashes of Pity into Beauty of Purpose brings emotionally charred women out of the pits of fire, through the ashes into the beauty of purpose. With the direction of God, hurting women weather through the painful journeys, become women of spiritual beauty, find God’s purpose, and learn to live again.




Debra Gray-ElliottDebra is a Christian author and inspirational speaker. Her published works include two personal poetry collections and inclusions in several Christian anthologies. Debra has been writing since the age of fifteen.

‘From Ashes of Pity into Beauty of Purpose‘ is Debra’s first non-fiction work that helps women overcome the negative emotions of abortion through direction, encouragement, and strength.

​Debra is currently working on her second book ‘Dancing through the Storms 365 Day Devotional: Surviving the Loss of a Child‘, which was born out of the devastating loss of her daughter Ashley.

Debra resides in Alabama with her husband and family.

From Ashes of Pity into Beauty of Purpose by Debra Gray-Elliott is now available from RUBY’S Reading Corner

I made it!
I may hate it.
I may question it.
I may be confused by it.
I may get lost with it.
I may want to be over it.
I may hate it, but I made it.

I may struggle.
I may fight.
I may run.
I may hide.
I may struggle, but I made it.

I may stand.
I may sit.
I may crawl.
I may stand, but I made it.

I may cry.
I may get angry.
I may cry, but I made it.

I may be still.
I may be still, but I made it.

I may hate it, but by God. I made it!
Happy Mother's Day

Happy Mother's Day to all my mommas! Today may be hard for some and I know and and completely understand it. To the mothers who lost their little ones too early, this is for you. To the mothers who are young, this is for you. To the mothers who are older, this is for you too! To the mothers who are thinking they are failing, this is for you! To the mothers who are feeling overwhelmed, this is for you. To the mothers who hide out in the closet and cry, this is for you. To the mother who suffers with depression, this for you. To the single mommas who pull double duty, God sees you! And yes, you got this! To the grandmothers who gave birth to our mothers, this is for you. To the mothers who struggle fertility, this is for you. To new moms, old moms, and step moms, this is for you. You are an inspiration to your children. You are what makes a house a home. You are a safe place for your children and your husband. You have the hardest job in the world. You are kind. You are caring. You loving and selfless. You run around like a crazy person just to make your kids happy. You are protective. You are strong in more ways than one! You can feel overwhelmed at times and that's okay! You don't need to have it all together. You need to take care of you every once and a while. Your children need you to be happy and healthy. Your husband needs his sexy wife back. You are worth far more rubies. You are hard working so your children don't have to work hard. You kiss their owies away. You give the best hugs. You change countless nappies. You tie shoes endlessly. You give tirelessly. You are the rock of your family. You see and understand your kids better than anyone else. You bring joy to them. You are their mother. You may not have given birth to them, but you are their mother. You have adopted them as your own. You would move heaven and earth just to get to your child. You are the best at what you do. You are a mother, you are a wife, and you are more than loved. You are going to go crazy at times and that's okay! We all lose it from time to time. Mommas are God's gift to humanity. They have an incredible bond with their children. They are incredible women. I think the world could use more mommas when things get hard. I pray this little post brightens up your day. To all the mommas on my social media accounts this is for you! HAPPY MOTHERS DAY! I hope this blesses you in some way. Have a beautiful day!

An Opportunity to Help a Friend in Need Tags: cancer prayer community support friendship

Help Sheri Diaz as she battles cervical cancer

My name is Sheri Diaz.  I am 46, live in Spring, Texas, and have been working as a Medical Assistant for the past 3 years.  I recently got the shock of my life with the diagnosis of cervical cancer.  I went in for a routine pap smear and the results indicated that something wasn't right.  About two weeks later, I went in and had a biopsy done and all three samples came back as having cancer cells in them.

 At first I felt devastated; my whole life seemed to be turning upside down.  But I had to get it together and figure out my insurance and how I was going to be able to pay for treatment.  I found out my insurance is preventative care only, and would not cover any of the treatment for cancer.  I am in the process of adding a supplementary insurance plan, but I will still be paying out of pocket for the additional premium as well as a percentage of the treatment.  I have scheduled my first appointment with the oncology gynecologist.  The doctors want me to have a total hysterectomy as soon as possible, so it is imperative that I raise the money quickly.  I won't know until after the surgery what further treatment will be needed. 

I have my husband’s full support as I go through this struggle, but all of my other family live out of state so I don't really have family to go to appointments with me.  My husband and I both work, but our income is limited. The money will help with transportation to and from medical appointments, medical treatment such as surgery, and medications, as well as living expenses because I will be out of work for a month or longer.  Any help you can give is much appreciated.

If you would like to help Sheri and her family with the medical expenses associated with her cancer treatments, please go to her YOUCARING Compassionate Crowdfunding page where you can make a donation.

THE U IN JESUS Tags: Christian.



Before U were thought of or time had begun, 

God stuck U in the name of His Son.. 


And each time U pray, you'll see it's true, 

You can't spell out JesUs and not include U.  

You're a pretty big part of His wonderful name, 

For U, He was born; that's why He came. 


And His great love for U is the reason He died. 

It even takes U to spell crUcified. 


Isn't it thrilling and splendidly grand 

He rose from the dead, with U in His plan? 


The stones split away, the gold trUmpet blew, 

And this word resUrrection is spelled with a U.  


When JesUs left earth at His Upward ascension, 

He felt there was one thing He just had to mention. 


"Go into the world and tell them it's true 

That I love them all - Just like I love U." 


So many great people are spelled with a U, 

Don't they have a right to know JesUs too? 


It all depends now on what U will do, 

He'd like them to know, 

But it all starts with U. 


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Christmas. Tags: Christmas

Book of Esther Bible Study LESSON 10: I Seek God's Guidance Tags: Bible study Old Testament Christian life Christian women Christian women online Book of Esther

Book of Esther Bible Study LESSON 10: I Seek God's Guidance


One of the very first times I knew God was answering my prayers had to do with me giving up control to Him. My husband and I had entered the time of parenting teens—when they are stretching, pulling back and trying to find their way in independence. Old forms of parenting no longer worked. Offered rewards. Warnings. Threats. It all becomes a new world when the age digits move past a dozen.

One of our children was struggling with the nuances of high school; the independence accorded those students by the teachers; the higher expectations of self-motivation. My child was lagging farther and farther behind, dragging through the day, unable to figure out how to catch up.

It wasn’t a crisis. There was no physical or mental danger involved. But it was a stress that I felt uniquely incapable of understanding or knowing how to handle. After weeks of angry nagging, feelings of incapacity as a parent and more than a few tears, one dark night, I simply gave it all to God. I acknowledged that I had no idea what to do. I released it; lay the issue at Jesus’ feet and asked that He carry the burden.

The next morning, my child was up, dressed and ready for school before I was even out of bed. Could this be my teen? The one I had to drag from bed each morning? I knew then God had heard my prayer and that my husband and I were not parenting our children alone. I was simply to love my children with Jesus as the focus of our lives. I learned the importance of seeking God’s guidance.

Go, gather together all the Jews who are in Susa, and fast for me. Do not eat or drink for three days, night or day. I and my maids will fast as you do. When this is done, I will go to the king (Esther 4:16).


Although this verse does not say that prayer was involved, all scholarly commentaries I have encountered indicate that the fasting done by Esther, her maids and her community of believers was accompanied by prayer. Prayer was not mentioned because back then fasting was nearly universally accompanied by prayer. There was no fasting without prayer; no reason to fast unless you were seeking God’s guidance, power or presence.

There are two types of people when it comes to worry and food. There’s that group (generally thin people) who lose their appetite when they’re worried. The idea of food makes them feel sick. So they basically don’t eat until the object of worry has been resolved.

Then there is the rest of the world which I’m part of. We eat everything in and out of sight when we’re worried. It’s not a matter of hunger. It’s not even a matter of appetite. It’s a matter of the physical comfort certain foods give us; the energy food provides; the activity it requires to keep our hands and teeth busy while we wait for the object of worry to resolve.

But take a look at Scripture and how often fasting and prayer are linked. The cool thing about fasting and prayer even for those of us with “hands-on eating compulsion” is that they are linked in a good way. Giving up food causes you to think about food even more. Although that sounds problematic, in reality it means that our attention is thus all perfectly focused in a tidy packet which is then easier to refocus on God. With that tidy packet of focus, you can spend more time in prayer—seeking God’s will and receiving it.


Scripture is filled with examples of people who fasted. Sometimes it was for specific occasions (2 Samuel 12:16) or holy days. Sometimes it was for safety (Ezra 8:21) or power (Acts 13:3). Sometimes it was an act of repentance (1 Samuel 7:6) or for mourning (2 Samuel 1:12) or before making decisions (Acts 13:2-3; 14:23). And it did not always involve fasting from food (1 Corinthians 7:3-5).

Are we guided by prayer? Do we recognize our need for God’s help? Are we asking for and giving prayer and guidance to others? And while we are praying (and fasting), are we doing it for our personal sense or in order to spend time with our Lord?

And when you fast, do not look gloomy like the hypocrites, for they disfigure their faces that their fasting may be seen by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward. But when you fast, anoint your head and wash your face, that your fasting may not be seen by others but by your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you (Matthew 6:16-18).

Remind you of another verse about praying in secret? Going into a closet to spend time alone with Jesus? Not for what others will say about our righteousness, but so that God will be able to look into our hearts and so that we will be able to hear His voice more clearly. More reason not to look gloomy. God desires our presence with Him. He desires us to seek us and when we do, He’s right there—in the closet with us. Not in the dark, but with His light shining brightly into and through us.

If Esther were here she would say this was her story. She knew the importance of seeking God’s guidance.

Who are we to God? When we recognize that God desires us to seek His guidance, we understand how He might see His women of faith. We can answer:

I am (like) Esther.

Esther found favor

For Thought and Discussion

  • How do you seek guidance from God? Through prayer? Scripture? Teachings by others?
  • Have you tried fasting and prayer? If so, what was your experience?
  • If you have not tried fasting and prayer, might you consider giving up an activity or a food or all food for a period of time in order to be able to focus more on God?

PRAYER: Heavenly Father, thank you for your guidance. We recognize that we can’t do life on our own. We need you to show us your way. Help us find more ways to seek your guidance. Amen.


Carol Peterson is the author of the I am Esther Bible Study Guide, which is available from Ruby’s Reading Corner. She is also a regular contributor to the RUBY magazine. You can read more of her inspirational articles on her blog.


You can find all of the previous lessons in the Book of Esther Bible Study HERE on the RUBY blog.

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Autumn Craft Collection from all around the Blogosphere Tags: Autumn Craft Collection Autumn Craft Collection Blogospher


With every season there is so much to celebrate! Don’t you just love to bring a touch of the changing seasons into your home? We do, too, so we have gathered up a collection of quick and easy autumn crafts and home décor projects just for the readers of RUBY magazine.

You will find a variety of ideas here as well as on the individual websites and blogs we’ve included, so be sure to visit them and tell them that RUBY sent you!

Mason Jars on a Rope from Midwest Living


This time of year we all have a few extra Mason Jars around the house, and there are SO many different ways to use them for both practical as well as decorative projects. This delightful home décor idea will bring a touch of autumn to your home! Check out the complete tutorial at

Leaf-Embellished Painted Pumpkins from The Sweet Escape


Pumpkins are not only abundant this time of year, but they come in all sizes. So whether you are setting up a porch or an autumn mantle display or if you are decorating your entire back yard, pumpkins are the PERFECT autumn accessory!

These leaf-embellished painted pumpkins can be made in any (or every!) color with pressed leaves applied with Mod Podge for an interesting, textured design surface. Find the complete tutorial on The Sweet Escape blog at

Framed “FALL” Art


How simple is this project!!! But look at how striking it is with the letters to the word “FALL” framed and standing all in a row! Of course, if you have enough frames you could spell out the word “AUTUMN” or any seasonal greeting to offer a warm welcome to your home. Complete tutorial can be found at

Autumn Textured Sweater Pillow Cover from Country Living


Here’s a clever idea for upcycling an old sweater . . . . cut it up and make a pillow cover! Lots of texture in autumn shades, and with a sweater-fabric flower with a button center, you’ve got a simple and inexpensive splash of color for your home. You could make pillows from upcycled sweaters in all sorts of textures and colors with the complete tutorial on the Country Living website at

Fall Fabric Rag Wreath from Find It Make It Love It


We’ve seen these “rag wreaths” in so many different colors, and they are so, so easy you just might want to make several. These beautiful wreaths not only bring some seasonal charm to your home, but they are a great way to use up bits and pieces of fabric scraps and strips, as well as ribbons and laces you already have on hand. You can find the complete tutorial at

Fall Mason Jar Vases from My Anything and Everything


Some white chalk paint, stencils, and a few of those Mason Jars we all have around the house and you’ve got a set of gorgeous autumn vases to dress up your entry or mantle this season. Complete tutorial can be found at

Find more creative and inspirational articles in the OCTOBER issue of RUBY magazine!

Bible Study: Book of Esther Tags: bible study book of esther carol peterson

One of our favorite authors, Carol Peterson, has written several Bible study books on women in the Bible. One of her Bible studies is on the Book of Esther, and she is graciously sharing those lessons with us in the coming weeks. We would love to include you in our weekly Bible study lessons! Please visit our Bible study group for updates and details.


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